One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside all people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two 'wolves' inside us all.
“One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”
“The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf wins?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”
By the time I was 25 years old, I found myself in the place where I no longer knew what to do with my life. To make things worse, I was battling numerous addictions, and these battles and addictions consumed most of my time and energy. I kept trying to quit"cold turkey", failing every time.
One night a friend of mine send me a political article and the narrator used the old Cherokee story as his closing line. I think I've heard this story before, but this time it took on a whole new meaning for me. I realized that all I had to do in order to get my life back together was to feed the right wolf.
On this site I mainly write about sex (or pornography) addiction, as for me this was the hardest addiction to overcome. But I like to believe that different kinds of people could relate to my experience and hopefully learn something from my mistakes.
Good luck to you on your journey towards a happier life, and remember to feed the right wolf :)
5 comments:
Thanks.
The notion that I choose the 'wolf' can be quite ͺw̘҃o͇͌·a᷏҅h҆᷍ͺ
Anyway, wanted to tell you to check the site layout on smaller monitors (or drag the window smaller). The left margin/padding of the body could use 20 pix or so
Thank you so much for your time and commitment to sharing your path and helping others with sex and porn addiction. I think you've got a lot of things right, and from what I've seen thus far, ERP is a great self-assessment tool to keep people awake and help them refocus the mind when the addiction cycle starts.
In comparing the 2 wolves, I would also add, and perhaps emphasize, fear to the attributes of the wolf we choose not to affirm. Because for 99.9% of PAs and SAs, it is that fear and avoidance of dealing with overwhelming problems and situations that drive the desire to escape into sexual fantasy. And as you know, compulsive sexual activity has nothing to do with sex, it has to do with escapism. Regardless of what those problems are or their severity, changing one's patterns to be more proactive in dealing with their stuck situations and problems adds a lot to breaking the compulsive cycle. I'll share a couple websites that I find very helpful in dealing with sexual addiction, to which I add yours to the list! Thanks again for your compassionate work!
www.sexualcontrol.com
www.thesexaddictedbrain.com
drumrunner
overload4u2@yahoo.com
I also quit smoking cold turkey and was going to use this approach to quit my porn addiction. After reading your website, I ordered three of the books you reference so that I can get a baseline understanding of why another approach will be necessary to quit this destructive behavior.
Thanks for taking your struggle to the next level so that others can learn and not feel so alone with this problem
Thanks for the encouragement,
It's good to see I am not alone. I also have recently dedicated my life to helping people like me out there.
I am still a rookie at this though, but am finding so much material and God is a great inspiration in this. I got some practical steps from candeo.
I'm faking quitting
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