History of Pornagraphy, and How it Became a Problem

Graphic Display of Human Sexuality

Pornography is a graphic display of human sexuality that can be traced as far back as any other sign of human intelligence. Throughout the ages pornography has evolved and developed, but it was not until the technological and ideological progress of the 20th century that pornography was able to find its way in literally every aspect of modern society. At this time American society has not yet formed a uniformly accepted opinion about the effects of pornography. Some activists suggest that pornography provides people a healthy way to explore their sexuality. Others argue that pornography is the root of all evil, and must be eliminated completely. Neither side is able to supply a solid proof of their position. Growing rates of failed marriages and increase in sex related crimes, however, suggest that, even though a moderate exposure to pornography is probably harmless, and excessive exposure can have a devastating effect on involved individuals.

History of Prostitution

In his book “A history of prostitution from antiquity to the present day” George R. Scott states that the first sexual drawing was made by the cave man, and dates back almost a thousand years prior to the discovery of the first written document. Since then, human sexuality has played a major role in majority of the developing societies. Even though pornography existed, it was mainly used as instructional materials, and not as a primary source of sexual attention. With the development of Judeo-Christian system of morals and the restriction of human sexuality, prostitution began to serve as a source of satisfaction for the human sexual desires. Scott provides devastating statistics to support his statements. For example, it was estimated that one of eight women in 18th century New York was working as a part or full time prostitute. Towards the middle of the 20th century, with the development of science, people begun to question the traditional believes.

Oppression of Human Sexuality Caused a Lot of Problems

They could not help but notice that oppression of human sexuality caused a lot of problems in the society. Various movements became to develop, that advocated a free expression of human sexuality, and developed in what we now know as a sexual revolution. Contraception became wildly practiced, and enrolment in premarital sexual relationship became a norm. As a result the need for prostitution greatly decreased, and this fact was commonly used by the free love movement supporters. As a result of sexual revolution, pornography has also made its way in to the mainstream society. Pornography began to be viewed as an individual right to the self exploration. Here is what Sallie Tisdale, a writer and a feminist of the time had to say about an anti-pornography effort by another famous feminist Catharine MacKinnon:

I take this personally, the effort to repress materials I enjoy – to tell me how wrong it is for me to enjoy it. Anti-pornographic legislation is directed at me: as a user, as a writer. Catharine MacKinnon and Andrea Dworkin [noted radical feminists who oppose pornography]… are themselves prurient, scurrying after sex in every corner. They look down on me and shake a finger: Bad girl. Mustn’t touch. That branch of feminism tells me my very thoughts are bad, that anything goes… The message of pornography… is that our sexual selves are real. (Pornography Opposing Views, p29)

Many health care professionals began to rely on pornography as a means of alternating of human sexual behavior. In their eyes pornagrophy was simply one of the tools that they could use to help their clients. Here is an example of what one sexologist of the time, Pattin Britton Ph.D, had to say on this matter:

As a board-certified clinical sexologist, I can tell you that it is common knowledge in my field that sexually explicit films and videos are often recommended as a mode of treatment for couples or individuals with clinical sexual problems. Such materials are viewed by professionals as helpful, not harmful, assets in the treatment process. (Pornography opposing Views, p30)

Sexual Revolution Brought Sexual Freedom

The sexual revolution brought sexual freedom, but it did not change the way people viewed family and marriage traditions. Men and women continued to get married, have families and have children. And they continued to have all of the same difficulties that the families were facing for centuries. Here is how Punneet Bedi describes these difficulties in his article titled “The hypocrisy of marriage”

Chastity is the most unnatural of all sexual perversions.” Aldous Huxley, who wrote this, wouldn’t have been surprised by any such survey. Indeed, had monogamy been natural, restrictions imposed by marriage wouldn’t have been required. Animal behavior is governed by biological needs and multiple sexual partners create genetic variation essential for evolution. Even in the oft-quoted monogamous birds, recent DNA studies reveal that the male is often not the father and re-pairing occurs to improve reproductive choices. Human beings are no different biologically.
People changed partners liberally in nomadic communities and paternity wasn’t known. As man settled, he wanted to ensure the children he was bringing up and who’d inherit his possessions, were his own. Marriage was conceived to ensure fatherhood. Polygamy and polyandry was common throughout history and one man-one woman relationships are a recent phenomenon.
Marriage demands abstinence from extra marital sex for either spouse, but the desire is so strong that marriage vows are often broken. Like all moral codes, marriage rules are generally hypocritical. Moral wrong doing, sexual infections or unwanted pregnancies may be the reasons for some, but the fear of breaking a marriage by betrayal is the most common deterrent. Like most things pleasurable but forbidden, extra marital sex is sought when one is sure that one will not be caught.

Prior to Internet Pornography, a Person Had to Go Through a Lot of Risk Get External Sexual Activity

As stated in the above article although it is common for people to feel occasional urge to seek a relationship outside of their marriage, very few actually choose to follow up on that urge. Prior to the development of internet pornography, a person had to go through a lot of trouble to get involved in any sort of external sexual activity. In order to get a prostitute, engage in affair, or even go to a strip club an individual had to take a risk of being caught and exposed. With pornography being marketed as a healthy behavior, many people turned to it to satisfy their sexual desires. A trip to a shop that sold pornographic material still has proven to be a relatively dangerous activity, with a risk of being noticed by family members or friends. All of this has changes with the development of the internet technology. Man and women no longer had to risk an embarrassing exposure in order to get their access to pornography. Now they could watch an unlimited amount of obscene material from the comfort of their home. They could even get involved in the “harmless” internet sex with the help of video cameras. Here is an example of just one of these cases from Dr’s Schneider and Weiss book “Cybersex Exposed”

Jack, the oldest of four children, became the “man of the house” at age eleven, when his father left his mother for a younger woman. Jack’s mother took on two jobs in order to feed the family, leaving Jack largely responsible for his three siblings… Jack was very much “prettified,” meaning that at times he was needed to be more the parent than the child. After college, Jack married Susanna, a very dependent young woman, and continued his pattern of feeling responsible for other’s happiness. Several years after his wedding, he became involved with a secretary at work. The affair provided a haven from his responsibilities and gave him a chance to experience intrigue, excitement, and just plain fun, something with which he’d had very little experience. After a year, however the secretary…told Susanna about the affair. Susanna’s response was uncharacteristically independent: she divorced him.
When Jack got married for the second time, he told doubting buddies, “I mean it, this time no extramarital secret life.” One wedding present, a home computer, gave Jack entry to a whole new world - the Internet. Unknown to his friends and new spouse, Jack was involved nightly in three different online affairs, had downloaded more than 1200 pornographic images … and was spending fifteen to twenty hours a week in sexual chat rooms …- all of this secret from his wife and accessed from his study at home.
Before their marriage, Jack and his second wife, Jody, has enjoyed healthy sexual relationship, but gradually, as Jack’s hidden Internet life became more arousing to him than sex with his wife, he grew more detached and withdrawn… Jack justified his activities by telling himself, “I’m not actually cheating. I’m not having real sex with anyone else… I am just having some fun, and no one is being hurt.” He told Jody that his heavy work schedule … were so draining that he was just not interested in sex for the time being. (Schneider, Weiss, p2-3)

Jack's use of pornography can hardly be classified as “healthy”

Clearly Jack's use of pornography can hardly be classified as “healthy”. Nevertheless the fact that pornography was not being views as anything bad caused Jack to think that everything was ok. Eventually Jody went on to discover his behavior, and she felt that it was neither healthy nor fair. Jack, however, is not alone. Today more and more men begin to find themselves in Jacks shoes.

A groundbreaking cybersex survey by Cooper and associate of 9,265 Internet users found that 8.5 percent were sexually compulsive of addictive. These cybersex users spent at least eleven hours per week in online sexual pursuit. They were considered addicts because they generally denied their online sexual activities, and continued going online despite poor academic or job performance, relationships difficulties, job loss, sexual harassment suits, arrests, failed relationships, or other adverse consequences.
Approximately 1 percent of the cybersex addicts in a follow-up analysis of the groundbreaking Cooper cybersex survey had a lengthy history of sexual obsession and compulsions that long preceded their discovery of sex on the Internet. (Schneider, Weiss, p10)

According to the provided statistics 7.5 percent of internet users developed a porn addiction without being previous predisposed.

It is estimated that well over 60 million people in the U.S. purposely visit Internet porn sites. According to ComScore Media Matrix, there were 63.4 million unique visitors to adult websites in December of 2005, viewing over 15 billion pages of adult content. (Kastleman, p3)

8.5 percent out of 60 million people means that there are over 5.1 million people currently addicted to pornography in U.S. alone, which is more that population of Los Angeles, San Jose and San Francisco combined. Out of these people, 4.5 million would not have become addicted if it was not for internet pornography. And with the number of internet users constantly increasing this numbers are very likely to go up. Cybersex addicts, like any other addicts, become preoccupied with their addiction and stop being responsible members of society. Here is how two of the porn addicts describe their condition.

While many hours at a time were wasted in this endeavor, it never seemed to really satisfy me. Oh, it would for the moment or while I was actually viewing the files, but the letdown and guilt afterwards were a real downer. I found myself risking everything – wife, family, reputation – in pursuit of this compulsion. It was when I began to view it as a compulsion that I knew I had a serious problem. But I did not and could not stop. It was only when my wife found some Web-temp [pornographic] files on our home computer that I was forced to finally confront the problem.
-A forty-seven-year-old married man
Cybersex use consumed my life. I was to the point where just closing my eyes would bring on an uncontrollable need to feed my addictive fantasies. The pictures viewed would haunt me day and night. I couldn’t look at another person without some filthy thought coming into my mind.
- A thirty-five-year-old married woman(Schneider,Weiss, p50)

Pornography Can Be Addictive

Many people disagree with the notion that pornography can be addictive. After all they were taught pornography viewing is healthy exploration of one own sexuality. Empowered by the belief that many men and women engage in pornography viewing, as a temporary means to combat their loneliness, or as a fun thing to do, curtain that when need to be they will be able to stop. In a matter of fact the majority does not realize that their behaviors exceed the limits of normality, until after they are confronted by their loved ones. It is not a coincidence that sexologist have been prescribing pornography as a medical treatment. Pornography viewing causes the human body to produce a full spectrum of chemicals. These chemicals, as any other drugs can be helpful if taken in small portions and harmful if the dosage is being abused.

It is often easier to understand addiction to as substance than to a behavior. The reality is that arousing or stimulating activities can be highly addictive for some according to how it affects their brain chemistry. Whereas drug and alcohol addictions can be defined as “a problematic relationships to a mood-altering substance,” sex addiction can be defined as “a problematic relationship to a mood altering experience” (Schneider,Weiss, p26)

“The Drug on the New Millennium"

In his book “The Drug on the New Millennium, the Brain Science Behind Internet Pornography Use” Mark B. Kastleman provides a very detail description of the process that take place inside a pornography viewer brain. But in order to understand these processes it is important to examine how the mechanism was design to work during the regular sexual intercourse. He describes the process as a going down the funnel, until the climax as reached. Once the climax is reached a couple slowly begins to emerge back to the reality.

The Narrowing Process of the Healthy Marriage

In a healthy marital relationship, sexual intimacy creates powerful physical, emotional, and chemical changes:

1. A Narrowing Process: At the top of the funnel the married couple enjoys a wide perspective of the world and the people around them. Then, as they become physically intimate, their brains begin to narrow in focus… climax is the most narrowly and powerfully focused singular event that the brain can engage in… in order to achieve this place, the brain must narrowly focus its attention and block out all distractions(work, the children, paying bills, etc)
2. The Release of Natural Chemicals: To aid … this narrowing process, the brain … begin releasing a flood of endogenous (meaning produced from within) chemicals… These natural chemicals include the following:
   1. Dopamine: Elevated levels of dopamine in the brain produce extremely focused attention…This chemical causes each spouse to focus intensely on the other at the exclusion of everything else around them… A release of dopamine is associated with craving and dependency in addiction, which may be why it can help produce a healthy attraction and dependency between the spouses…
   2. Norepinephrine: This chemical generates exhilaration and increased energy by giving the body a shot of natural adrenaline. Norepinephrine has also been linked to raising memory capacity. Whatever stimulus is being experienced in the presence of this chemical is “seared” in the brain. This helps explain how a couple in love can remember the smallest details of their beloved features…
   3. Testosterone: …Testosterone is known as the hormone of sexual desire in both man and women. For man, however, it is the key hormone of desire, triggering feeling of positive energy and well being…
   4. Oxytocin: … the flood of oxytocin at climax acts as natural tranquilizer, lowering blood pressure, blunting sensitivity to pain and stress, and inducing sleep.
   5. Serotonin: This natural chemical is released right after climax, bringing on deep feeling of calmness, satisfaction and release from stress. Anti-depressant drug like Prozac are design to increase levels of serotonin.
3. The Experience is More Than Just Physical: As husband and wife move down the funnel together, there is more to the experience than just chemicals released in the physical body… the mind; heart and spirit are all joined together…
4. A Climax of Many Things: … the final crescendo resents a culmination of all the things husband and wife have shared – doing the dishes, paying the bills, raising the children…all that … make up a marriage.

Just like in the marriage case, a pornography viewer goes through a similar process. The involved chemicals, however, producing a completely different result.

The Narrowing Process on Internet Porn

When an individual enters the funnel through the viewing of pornography, the physical and chemical processes are virtually identical to those in marital sexual intimacy, but with some radical differences …

1. A Narrowing Process: At the top of the funnel, before beginning to view pornography, the individual enjoys a wide perspective of the world. Pornography addicts … describe the top of the funnel as reality: their public self… Just as in the marriage funnel, the porn viewer begins blocking out distractions – but he is blocking out much more. He is alone. The object of his narrowing is … pornographic images. So along with work, paying bills, etc he also begins blocking out all thoughts of God, his marriage, family, morals, commitments and consequences…
2. The Release of Natural Chemicals: … the porn viewer’s brain… begins releasing endogenous chemicals. The viewer feels highly aroused… all of the stress, pressures, anxieties and pains in life begin fading away as his system is flooded with endogenous drugs… the viewer is able to self medicate and escape the reality of life…
   1. Dopamine: Elevated levels of dopamine in the brain produce extremely focused attention… this causes the viewer to focus intensely on the pornographic images at the exclusion of everything else around him…
   2. Norepinephrine: This chemical induces feeling of exhilaration and increased energy by giving the body a shot of natural adrenaline… Norepinephrine also increases memory capacity… this explains why porn addicts can recall the images seen with vivid clarity years later…
   3. Testosteron: Pornography triggers the release of testosterone which in result increases the desire for more pornography…
   4. Oxytocin: … oxitocine acts as a natural tranquilizer. The individual … seek oxytocin rush to cope with stress and pressure of life.
   5. Serotonin: This natural chemical released … evoking a deep feeling of calmness… individuals turn to porn to self-medicate and escape the stress…
3. The Experience is More Than Just Sexual: There is a lot more going on in the Pornography Funnel than sexual arousal. In fact, remove the sexual arousal from the process and any similarities to sexual intimacy in a healthy marriage cease… While sliding down the Pornography Funnel, a tidal wave of conflicting and confusing images and messages wash over viewer… visual images are stored as emotional memories in the brain before the logic center realize what has happened… when the logic brain catches up… and brings on a “fight or flight” type response. The adrenaline gland sends out cortisol, the “stress hormone,” which in turn activates myriad body-system process to counteract stress. In essence, the entire pornography process is intensified and supercharged, far beyond what sexual arousal alone would accomplish… The human system is not design to deal with this overwhelming level of conflicting stimulations… This is why many neuropsychologists … refer to pornography as “visual crack cocaine”…
4. An Empty and Hollow Climax: … When one uses pornography to reach climax, the brain desensitizes to the images, habituates to them, and eventually becomes bored. An increase in the variety of images and/or time spent on the Internet is required to maintain stimulation levels… In a healthy marriage relationship, sexual intimacy in only a part of everything else going on in the couple’s life… So when the couple “brings all of that into the bedroom” it is highly unlikely that the brain will habituate to the sexual process…
5. When Reality Returns – the Hopeless Dialogue: When the porn viewer emerges from the narrowest part of the funnel back to a wide perspective, the heartless “drug-high” of pornography and climax quickly dissipate. Suddenly his rational thinking returns and the hopeless dialogue begins: “What have I done? What was I thinking?” … he wasn’t thinking, that was the problem! Once he descends into the Pornography Funnel, he gives up his ability to “think.” The overpowering flood of chemicals overrides his cognitive thought and reasoning abilities. The frontal lobes – the logic center of the brain – are virtually shut down and the limbic system, which controls the pleasure/emotional center of the brain, takes over. (Kastleman, p39-57)

It is true that sexuality oppression can responsible for causing many psychological problems. However, it seems that in its effort to move away from potentially harmful believes of the past, the society moved to far in the opposite deprecation. Any extreme is dangerous. Hopefully the society will learn to recognize the new danger, and be able to find a healthy balance between the restrictions and acceptance of human sexuality. Until this understanding becomes a common knowledge, it is very important for individual families to be aware of possible effect of pornography; it no longer should be viewed as simple and harmless fun.

Bibliography:

1. Bedi, Puneet. The hypocrisy of marriage. Mumbai: India Today, 2008. 7 Dec. 2008 . An article describing problems of modern marriage.
2. Bender, David, Bruno Leone, and Carol Wekesser. Pornography Opposing Viewpoints. San Diego: Greenhaven Press Inc, 1997. Provides a collection of arguments of both pro and against pornography advocates.
3. Kastleman, Mark B. The Drug of the New Millennium. Salt Lake City: Power Think Publishing, 2007. An insight inside the chemical processes that take place inside porn addict’s brain. For more information visit Mark Kastleman's website.
4. Schneider, Jennifer, and Robert Weiss. Cybersex Exposed. Center City, MN: Hazelden , 2001. A self help guide for cybersex addicts.
5. Scott, George R. A History of Prostitution from Antiquity to the Present Day. New York: NY Medical Press, 1954. A historic insight into sexuality of different times and societies.

8 Symptoms of Sexual Addiction

There’s a point where one’s sex drive moves past healthy and crosses into the realm of addiction: urges spiral from intense to obsessive, and pursuits escalate from frequent to excessive

Cases of sexual addiction are actually more pervasive than many realize. But because there is no consensus yet in the medical community about what constitutes this compulsion, its symptoms remain a gray area.
With the different sets of diagnostic criteria floating around, here's a run-through of what professionals and organizations make of sexual addiction for now.

A vicious cycle

Most people associate sexual addiction with prostitution and extra-marital affairs. But there are a bunch of other behaviors — obsession with pornography and phone or cybersex, excessive masturbation, and repeated visits to strip clubs — that fall under the same category. It's not much the form the compulsion takes but how far the activity or practice is taken, along with its underlying causes.    

• Extreme escapism

In the same way that people take drugs to feel good and drink alcohol to cope with sadness, sexual addiction is essentially a coping mechanism. Those who are caught up in it use sex to avoid confronting a problem, to shake off a stressful event or to find relief from discomfort, boredom, depression or anxiety.

• Loss of control

What people who resort to sex later find out is that the activity they engaged in, while providing temporary euphoria, never actually gives them what they were looking for in the first place. Their problems remain. They don't get to relax. In fact, the feelings of discomfort just mount. So they indulge some more until they lose the ability to reasonably fight their urges.   

• Recurrent behavior

The need to act out is incessant; the behavior repetitive. Clinicians usually track occurrence from six months to a year. If the problem persists within this period, their diagnosis leans toward sexual addiction.   

• Escalating pattern

And it doesn't stop at the behavior becoming a bad habit to break. People with sexual addiction are inclined to increase the frequency and intensity of the activities they engage in. Those who gravitate toward soliciting sex, for instance, are likely to do so more often. Those in the middle of multiple affairs would search for additional sexual partners. Most even "branch out" in the process, resorting to pornography for quick fixes or going online in their quest for companions.
According to experts in the field, this upward spiral happens during the first few years of the addiction and eventually plateaus. This means the behavior continues but its frequency, intensity and scope is maintained at a certain level.

• Preoccupation

Mentally, addicts are consumed by thoughts of sex. They waste excessive time playing out fantasies in their heads, musing on past experiences and planning new and more elaborate ways to indulge themselves. 

• Skewed perspective

Sexual addiction is not just an evasive tactic gone wrong. Everything goes downhill once the cycle starts. New problems are created. Additional reasons for distress and anxiety come to surface. More unpleasant feelings — shame, isolation and guilt — crop up. And the thrill of it all turns out to be shallow and fleeting. There's only misery and emptiness. But addicts do not see it this way. Rather, they take the situation as a sign that their current actions are not as "effective" as before and decide instead to up their ante to bring back a false sense of euphoria and fulfillment.

• Risk-taking

Those who are determined to kick it up a notch often engage in practices with more serious repercussions. Health-wise, this pertains to unprotected sex either with prostitutes or multiple partners. 
A blatant disregard for the consequences of their actions is one of the major symptoms of sexual compulsion. Most addicts are fully aware of the risk factors but choose to ignore them. And it's not just their personal well-being in jeopardy. Often, they are careless with their finances, career and relationships as well.

• Failure to stop

People with sexual addiction reach a point where they realize the predicament they're stuck in. Yes, most of them are stuck. They try to stop or reduce their compulsions but ultimately fail. The desire and intention to quit is real. But the follow-through effort comes up short and they never quite get there on their own, no matter how many repeated attempts at withdrawal they prepare for.


The bigger picture

The symptoms of sexual addiction are not limited to those that define a compulsive behavior. Looking at how it affects the person and those surrounding him or her is also vital to getting a complete picture of the situation.

• Accompanying addiction

It's pretty common for a sex addict to jump into drug or alcohol abuse to deal with heightened anxiety. Some tread into dangerous waters for the extra thrill. Others do so because they, in reality, gain little to no satisfaction from sex.

• Health threats

Addicts are more prone to sexually transmitted diseases depending on how far they take their urges. Many suffer exhaustion due to the unnecessary strain they put on their body in pursuit of certain activities. Others simply forget to monitor their health because of their preoccupation with sex. 

• Social withdrawal

To keep appearances, addicts become increasingly secretive. A number isolate themselves, giving up their social life to protect their obsession. It also becomes harder to form genuine connections with people they meet, as most of their interactions are to an extent sexually motivated.

• Irresponsibility

An addict's office, school and domestic affairs suffer as well. With their attention focused on sexual pursuits, academic and work obligations take a backseat. Some get too caught up to care for his or her family. There are even cases where loved ones are forced to live hand-to-mouth because household funds have been depleted, with an inordinate amount of money allocated for addiction-related expenditures. 

• Broken bonds

Entangled in their obsession, addicts are unable to sustain relationships. Relationships are often bound to falter, especially when betrayal is factored in. 

• Potential harm

In a few unfortunate cases, abuse and violence become part of the equation. Note, however, that this rarely happens. While there are addicts that become stalkers, voyeurs, exhibitionists and sexual predators, an overwhelming majority are able to get the help they need and recover completely.
Diagnosing sexual addiction is not based on a single indicator but rather on a group of symptoms. And even then, the signs vary for each person and develop in stages over time.

But in most circumstances, the cycle begins with using sex repeatedly and at an increasing frequency to escape or cope. The urge becomes too much to control that addicts act on it regardless of the accompanying negative consequences. Their obsession and compulsions get out of hand, impairing their everyday life in more ways than one.  

On the whole, characterizing sexual addiction is necessary to understanding how to overcome it. Plus, it's an unfamiliar territory for most, so a degree of awareness is definitely key.

Congressman David Wu is a Sex Addict

BBC.com reports that congressman David Wu has announced that he is resigning due to yet another sex scandal allegation. Congressman Wu is 56 years old, currently going through divorced and allegedly had a sexual relationship with an 18 year old girl, a daughter of his childhood friend and major campaign contributor.

This announcement makes him 3rd congressmen to resign due to sex scandals in 2011. It is also interesting to note that the other two congressmen have resigned due to scandals that involved forms of online or cyber sex.

It is unclear how long our society will remain in denial about the reality of sex addiction. Meanwhile innocent people (such as citizens of Oregon in this case) will continue to get hurt.

Recovery Email 9

Today I wanted to share a very inspiring quote with you and announce new “Porn Harms” national awareness campaign.

One of your forum member TheFlyingPickle posted the following. I find this quote to be truly inspirational and describing just the right mindset needed to overcome addiction or make any other change in one’s life. You can read the full post here: http://feedtherightwolf.nfshost.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=3&t=841

"Do what needs to be done."
-Rhadi Ferguson, Judo champion.

He was asked "How do you stay motivated at such a high level?"

His reply:

People often let their psychological disposition affect their physiological disposition. Meaning, oftentimes you will not work out, not have a productive workout, simply not do what you are capable of or refuse to do what you know you should. I found at an early stage in the game that as an athlete you have to disconnect your justifications from your doings. Basically, champions do what they know they should. They do what needs to be done when it needs to be done - period.

The way I stay motivated is that I DON'T get motivated. The word motivation comes from the French word motif or the Latin word Motivus. It is defined as, "an emotion, desire or physiological need, or similar impulse that acts as an incitement to action." I don't move, act, train or live on motivation. I train and live based on intent.

Intent is, "Having the mind and will focused on a specific purpose." So when I hit the gym for example, I wouldn't dare say that I am motivated on being a champion. I say I intend on being a champion. Champions don't operate based on motivation; they operate based on purpose.

Champions do things champions do. That doesn't take motivation. That is the difference between motivation and intent. The Olympic creed states, "The most important thing in the Olympic games is not to win but to take part, just as the most important thing in life is not the triumph but the struggle. The essential thing in life is to have fought well." You can not compete well and fight well if you expect to operate based on hope or motivation. You can only compete and fight well if you intend to do so, and make a choice regardless of your emotional disposition. I am a 2004 Olympian and a four time World Judo Champion. Why? Because I understand the power of intent.

Also in the news, our friends at www.PornHarms.com are lunching a 4 week long nation wide pornography awareness campaign. Some of the events they are having are:

Mon, 7/11 2pm EDT - Live Online Conference: Perspectives from addicts and the spouse. Watch LIVE and participate on Facebook.

Tue, 7/12 11am EDT and 9pm EDT - Web and Call Presentation: 5 Hidden Dangers Facing You and Your Family Right Now. Register at CovenantEyes.com/Webinar or call 989 720 8088

Thur, 7/14 4pm EDT - Live Online Conference: Tools to Overcome Pornography Addiction. Watch LIVE and participate on Facebook.

Thur, 7/14 9:00pm EDT - Webinar - Overcoming Sex Addiction: Learning the difference between fantasy and positive relationships.Email elizabeth@pornharms.com for call info. FREE subscriptions to Candeo addiction recovery program will be given out during the event.

Fri, 7/15 All Day - Twitter Chat: Facts & Answers on Porn Addiction in 140 Characters. Just tweet using #pornaddiction at the end of your tweet.

Sun, 7/17 9pm EDT - Online Movie Screening: Out of Darkness. The incredible true story of Shelley Lubben and her journey from a life in the pornography industry to a life fighting against them. Watch right on Facebook!

You can learned more about the event here: http://www.pornharms.com/beaware/ . Please try to spread the word if you can .

I was asked to participate on twitter discussion on Friday 7/15 and I invite you to join us as well if you have a twitter account. Simply add #pornaddiciton at the end of your tweet. You can find me on twitter @feedrightwolf

That is all I got for now. I hope you are doing well. If you find yourself in need of inspiration or if you simply feel like you need to talk to somebody make sure to check out our forum: http://forum.feedtherightwolf.org

May you have a sober and peaceful day!
Alex